I've been reading a lot of verses in my quiet time with the Lord that talks about taming the tongue, using kind words etc.
Ephesians 4:29- Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it might minister grace unto the hearers.
Proverbs 25:11- A word fitly spoken is like apple of gold in pictures of silver.
Psalm 34:13 - Keep thy tongue from evil, and thy lips from speaking vile.
James 1:26 -If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not this tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man's religion is vain.
And let's not forget the other verses in James.
James 3:8- But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.
vs 9-Therewith bless we God,even the Father and therewith curse we men, which made after the similitude of God.
vs 10- Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so be.
And there are a lot more verses about the tongue. I confess sometimes I have a hard time with my tongue. I can get very defensive if I feel I've been wronged. Case in point someone said something negative about an idea I had. When I first read the comment, I wanted to write back and say something sarcastic. Then I thought about just letting it go, but as I was chopping vegetables this evening the Lord reminded me of the verses I've been reading. Ouch!
So I've decided I'm going to thank her for her lovely idea and kindly explain why I did things the way I did and leave it at that.
So my friends, how do you handle conflict?