Wednesday, December 13, 2017

Coping With Grief During the Holidays

Photo by Jad Limcaco courtesy of Unsplash

Yesterday was the second annivesary of my father-in-law's passing. We knew he was going to leave since he was on hospice care. He suffered from dementia and COPD.
Our grief  started before Dad passed because when a loved one is on hospice there is that anticipating grief. The grief that comes knowing that Dad was dying but we just didn't know when he would pass. He passed away one week after he came home from the nursing home.

So Christmas that year (2015) was very hard for us.  We tried to make Christmas as normal but at the end of the day we were crying because we missed Dad(Papa to his granddaughters)

So how do you cope with loss and sadness during the holidays? I'll just share what helped and is still helping us.

First of all give yourself permission to grieve. Missing someone who has passed away is definitely normal.

Second. Pray. There is no greater Comforter than the Lord himself.
Third talk to a trusted friend who has gone through loss or maybe a friend who can offer a listening ear. Don't forget your pastor as another trusted person to talk to. I'm sure he will find time for you.

Fourth. Get out of the house. Don't isolate yourself from others. In my opinon that is the worst thing you can do because I think it could lead to severe depression. Again that's just my opinion. Volunteer at a soup kitchen or at church.

I'm sure there are other things but those are things that I remember from that year. If you are suffering from grief please follow the suggestions above and please don't be alone.

Tuesday, December 12, 2017

Our Christmas Tree

I apologize for the poor picture quality. Anyway, this is our homemade Christmas tree. Tim built with it and we got garland with the lights on it already. We usually have more ornaments but Kirstie is a very curious cat so we decided not to put as many as we usually do.
I tried taking a picture with the lights on but it was too much glare. As you can see.

Friday, December 8, 2017

California Wildfires

We have been monitoring the wildfire situation here from AZ in our old area of Santa Barbara County. All the schools in Goleta Union, Santa Barbara Unified School districts and more  districts are closed. I read this morning there is no Amtrak service in Ventura County.
The pictures  I've seen coming out of Santa Barbara have been incredible.

It's definitely a scary situation over there. There are fires burning in other parts of California as well. Prayers would be appreciated.

Wednesday, December 6, 2017

Fun Questions and Answers

Hello ladies. I was tagged by TR at My Life 0utside the Box so here goes.

1.What is your middle name?   Sherimell

2. What was your favorite subject at school?  Home Ec-cooking
3. What is your favorite drink?  Hot tea in a pretty teacup
4. What is your favorite song at the moment?  O Come, O Come Emmanuel
5. What is your favorite food?  Chicken  and chocolate but not mixed together. lol
6. What is the last thing you bought?  Two books from Amazon by Dorcas Smucker
7. Favorite book of all time?  Vera's Journey by Judy Yoder
8. Favorite Color?  Blue
9. Do you have any pets?  Kirstie our adopted kitty
10. Favorite Perfume?  None but I love the smell of lavender or lemon essential oil
11. Favorite Holiday?  Easter

12. Are you married? Yes to Tim for 24 years
13. Have you ever been out of the country, if so how many times?  I believe twice. To Mexico and Baja California

14. Do you speak any other language? No. I tried to learn Japanese in high school but couldn't get it
15. How many siblings do you have? four sisters and one brother
16. What is your favorite shop?  Etsy Shop- Rose Petal Blessings.  Offline I love Dollar Tree
17. Favorite restaurant? Cracker Barrel
18. When was the last time you cried?  On Thanksgiving
19. Favorite Blog?: Oh I don't have a fave
20. Favorite Movie? Harvey(the original with James Stewart)
21. Favorite TV shows?  We don't have cable  TV but I like to watch When Calls the Heart on Netflix
22. PC or Mac?    PC
23. What phone do you have? LG of some sort
24. How tall are you?  5 feet One inch(I'm glad they didn't ask how much I weigh!)
25. Can you cook?  Yes and I love it!
26. Do you have children? Yes three daughters

Saturday, December 2, 2017

And the Winner Is....

Cheryl from Homespun Devotions! Congratulations! Cheryl I will be contacting you via email to get mailing information.
Thanks to everyone who entered. I'm thinking of doing another giveaway but we will see.
Have a wonderful day my friends!

Friday, December 1, 2017

Fun Christmas Present Shopping Idea and Giveaway Deadline

When my girls were little they got to go Christmas shopping from my friend's car. She had lots of items that she was going to take to the thrift store but she would stop by our house first. She would have the girls go to her car, supply them with gift bags and they got to "shop" for my husband and I and for each other. It was such a fun activity for them and they didn't care if they weren't brand new. I still have all the gifts the girls gave me such as aprons and a tea set.
Perhaps you know a family who could benefit from such a fun activity?  

I will be annoucing the winner of the bookmark  and coloring pencils tomorrow morning so if you want to enter the drawing please let me know. See my post from Monday for details about the bookmark.

Have a great day my friends!

Avoiding Being Ripped Off Part 2

Shopping online is convenient and and it definitely better than spending hours in a store but we need to be careful.
1. Always make make sure you sure you shop at familiar sites.
2. Always check for the padlock and make sure you see https in the I guess you call it an address window.
3. Use a strong password for setting up your account. I recommend using one that uses a combination of caps and lowerecase letters, numbers and symbols in ramdom order.

Shopping in stores
1. Never, ever leave your purse or handbag unattended while shopping. I can't tell you the number of women I've seen walking away from their carts to get something a few feet from their carts. Thieves are counting on us not paying attention to our carts. I usually snap my purse to the cart but its better to just keep your purse on your shoulder.

2. Most stores now have chip machines which I really don't like. They are supposed to be more secure.  The problem is when you insert your card part of your number is still showing. What I do is I hold my wallet over my card. Not to where it's touching just sort of hovering so you don't accidently cancel your transaction by bumping your card.
Immediately after the machine tells you to remove your card, put it away! Don't have a conversation with the checker while still holding your card. I'm actually guilty of this.

3. Don't leave your purchases in plain sight in your car. At my old church in CA a car was broken into and gifts were stolen.

 Again I know I'm forgetting something but I hope I my ideas will help us all not become  victims. Some of my ideas are probably no brainers but it's so easy to get distracted and forget.
Enjoy your shopping and stay safe!

Thursday, November 30, 2017

Avoiding Scams and Rip Offs Part 1

Photo by Hanny Naibiho courtesy

The holidays are here which means thieves are lurking about ready to steal from unsuspecting victims. I will try to offer some tips that I hope will keep you from becoming a victim.
Phone Scams:
1. Your computer is sending error messages. Ladies your computer is not sending error messages. Windows techs do not call people telling them their computer is sending error messages. The caller wants to take control of your computer and steal your information. Just hang up if they call.

2.Sherrif Scam/IRS
I've read about this recently. The scammer will call posing as a sheriff. The caller will tell you there is a warrant out for your arrest  because you owe money and you can avoid jail time by paying x amount of money.  Law enforcement officers will never alert someone over the phone if there is a warrant. If they did this real criminals would skip town.

3. Charity Solicitors 
These are hardest to discern real ones from fake ones. It's better to just donate to a charity you are familiar with or note the name of the charity and look it up online.

I'm sure there are phone scams I'm forgetting but these are the ones that come to mind.
So ladies please be careful!
Next I will  discuss shopping online and in stores.

Tuesday, November 28, 2017

Agreeing to Disagree

There are some things as Christians we will never agree with each other about.
Some ladies like myself wear dresses or skirts only.  Some ladies wear pants.  There's no need to argue one way or the other but we all can agree that we need to be modest in whatever we wear and that our clothing honors the Lord.

There are some Christians who only listens and sing hymns. There are others who like the more contemporary Christian music. I personally don't like Christian music that is so loud my ears are ringing and I can't hear the pastor's sermon. Whatever music you choose make sure it is God honoring and that the songs are doctrinally correct.

There are Christians who celebrate Christmas and will have a Christmas tree. There are some who celebrate Christmas but don't put up a tree. There are Christians who don't don't celebrate the holiday at all. I believe whatever you do remember Jesus is the reason for the season. There are people who are church CEOs( they attend church Christmas, Easter Only). Some of these people have come to the Lord (or came back) after attending a Christmas service or Resurrection Sunday service and heard the gospel. I have family members who have done this and oh how that warms my heart!

So now Jesus probably wasn't born on December 25th but I find it encouraging that a day is set aside to remember the One who came as a baby, grew up and was crucified and rose again for us.

That being said, I think we can agree to disagree. When we get to heaven it won't really matter because will be too busy worshipping the Lord to argue amongst each other.😊

Ana, if you are reading this, I'm sorry you were offended. If you would like to comment, please respond without all caps and in English.
Thank you!

A note about the bookmark giveaway, I'm going to enclose some coloring pencils for you to use to color your bookmark. Remember Friday is the deadline and I will announce the winner on Saturday morning. Just leave a comment on my original post about the giveaway.
Have a blessed rest of your day!

Monday, November 27, 2017

Giveaway! Bookmark

Good morning ladies so as promised, I'm posting details about the giveaway. As I said it is really nothing much so here goes.

Okay I got these bookmarks from Charles Stanley's In Touch Ministries and they sent me two. So I would like to give away one.
It measures about 8" x 3" and it's for coloring. Most of you know I love coloring books ever since coloring books for adults became a "thing".
So in order to be in the drawing just leave a comment below. I'll put everyone's name in a bowl and pick one ramdomly. The winner will be announced this Saturday December 2nd. Have fun!
Note:11/2817 I will enclose coloring pencils with the book mark to get your creative juices going!

Saturday, November 25, 2017

Giveaway Coming Up!

I have a small something I would like to giveaway. It's nothing much though. Details coming up on Monday.

Friday, November 24, 2017


My previous post my typo for Prov 25:11 should have said "An encouraging word is like apples of gold in places of silver" not "pictures of silver".
Sorry about that!

Another Thanksgiving Has Come and Gone

Yesterday was a sweet Thanksgiving but it was also hard because my oldest daughter is overseas on a missions trip. She messaged my husband to let us know they had gone through the Panama Canal. She misses us and we miss her terribly but we know God has some good things planned for her and the team.

Our meal was great and I want to pass along some tips for meal prep that helped me not dread preparing the Thanksgiving meal. You can use these for Christmas or any special occassion.

1. If you are going to roast your turkey, use oven bags. The only company I know of that makes them is Reynolds though I'm sure there must be more.
The turkey is juicier, reduces roasting time and clean up is easier which leads to numbet two.

2. Use a disposable roasting pan. I got my at Dollar Tree for, you guessed it a dollar. I hate cleaning roasting pans so with the roasting bag and disposable pan, I'm able to just gather them both and toss. Note: Always, I repeat always support pan with a cookie sheet, otherwise you run the risk of a severe burn. Believe me, there is no fun in spending the holiday at the ER!

3. Clean up as you cook. If you have a dishwasher load each utensil, dish or pan in the dishwasher so you don't have a huge mess to clean after your meal.
If you don't have a dishwasher then have a sink ready with soapy water to wash your dishes.

4. When it comes to buying  for your holiday meal check your local dollar type store.
I bought my disposable pan, stuffing and broth all at Dollar Tree. Some of you might live near the 99 Cent Only store. That was our favorite store when we lived in CA.
You can also find Ziplock type containers there too and " doggie bag containers".

I hope these ideas will help you have a little less stress when planning your next holiday gathering, whatever that holiday may be.

Switching topics, yesterday for the first time ever since I blogging, I had to reject a comment.
It seems that this woman who wanted to argue with me over at a blog I follow, wanted to continue over on my blog. I had let her know on the other blog that I didn't want to get into a comment war with her. I ended with the scripture Proverbs 25:11 "An encouraging word is like apples of gold in pictures of silver." I guess that made her angry so that's why she tried at my blog.

She always writes in all caps and in Spanish. My Spanish is very limited but I can tell that that she was very angry with me and others who don't agree with her. She claims to be a Christian but she seems very rude and judgemental.

She doesn't have a blog so I have no idea how to block her or if I even can. Any ideas will  be helpful.
What did she want to argue about you may be wondering? It was over Christmas and whether it was Biblical or not.

The thing is, I never even argued with her over that. I asked her and someone else asked her to please not write in all caps. Someone else asked her to post in English since she apparently spoke English.

I'm guessing she targeted me  because most people will comment anonymously but I like to use my name.
I do hope I seen the last of her on my blog and hopefully over at the over blog. Maybe she will give up and find someone else to argue with. She reminded me of the odious woman in Proverbs that Debi Pearl in Created to Be His Helpmeet warns us not to become.

Thursday, November 23, 2017

Happy Thanksgiving!

I want to wish you all a very Happy Thanksgiving. If things get rough today, it's okay to escape to a quiet place to pray.
Photo by Jessica Bristow courtesy of

Monday, November 20, 2017

Blessed Thanksgiving!

Just in case I don't get on this week I want to wish you all a Happy Thanksgiving! I will  be very busy with preparing for Thanksgiving
so I will be limited with posting and reading your blogs.
Let's all take time this week to be thankful for the big things and the little things in our lives.
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